Terry Crews came out and admitted he had been sexually assulted by someone in the film industry, and is now being blacklisted. I have been a fan of his since Idiocracy, and will continue to support all of his work.
So when you wonder why people don’t come forward with their assults, this is why.
Where are all the bitch men who ask about male sexual assault when the focus is on women but are dead silent when men are actually at the focus.
It’s almost as if Men’s Rights Activists don’t really care about men’s rights. Hmmm….
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Yep….
This misses the really powerful piece of the story: Terry Crews was the one who chose not to do the movie. One of the producers told him, essentially, that he could either do the movie and be drop the sexual assault charges, or continue with the trial and have “troubles”. Terry dropped out because he felt standing against abusers was more important than his film career.
It’s bullshit that he was threatened in the first place, of course, but his response was ballsy. I admire him for it.
Bras last longer if you let them air dry. Don’t put them in the dryer.
If you have a problem with frizzy hair, don’t dry your hair with a towel. It makes the frizzies worse. (I recently read an article that said to use a t-shirt? I brush mine out and let it air dry.)
Whites wash best in hot water. Everything else can be in cold - save on your electricity bill.
You can kill 99.9% of germs in a sponge by putting it in the dishwasher for a cycle or by microwaving it for 2 min (be sure to make the sponge damp before microwaving and to put a cup half full of water in with it and please DO NOT squeeze the sponge until it has cooled off)
Airing out your room/house and letting sunlight in every so often can decrease the number of household pests like silverfish and ants.
Black underwear is best during your period as stains are less likely to be visible.
To save money, put aside 10% of each paycheck into a savings account. It’ll add up.
Unless your hair has something on/in it (like grease or mud or something), using conditioner first can actually be the better choice. The conditioner holds in the good oils that help you hair look sleek and beautiful, which shampoo would otherwise wash away.
Speaking of shampoo - if you have long hair, washing just the bits that touch your scalp is generally enough. The rest of your hair gets cleaned with just the run off from your scalp.
If you put a tampon in and it’s uncomfortable/you can feel it, you didn’t do it quite right. A properly placed tampon is virtually unnoticeable by the wearer.
Apply deodorant/antiperspirant a couple hours in advance of when you need it. This gives the product the chance to block your sweat glands. Using deodorant just before going somewhere where you’ll sweat (this means walking outside for people in high humidity places) results in your sweat washing the deodorant off and starkly limiting its usefulness.
After running the dryer, use the dryer sheet from that load to brush out the lint catch - it gets everything off in a fraction of the time it’ll take you to get it clean with your bare hands. Paper towels also work well.
Wash your face everyday, or as often as possible. Forget which brand of cleanser is best. Just washing your face everyday will guarantee you clearer skin. And do you best not to pop pimples, as tempting as the urge may be.
Fold laundry asap after taking it from the dryer to avoid wrinkles. This may seem obvious for dress shirts and silly for things like t-shirts, but you’ll notice the difference even then once your shirts stop looking like unfolded paper balls.
To all the kids whose parents couldn’t help you with this kind of stuff
Addition: the natural acidity of a vagina can bleach the gusset on darker underwear. It’s perfectly normal.
i did not know some of this stuff, so useful!
The best thing you can do to keep your skin clear (aside from washing) is to frequently change your pillowcase. Throw on a fresh one every day if you want. Get nice cotton pillowcases at Ross.
Drink water. no, seriously! your skin will be clearer, you’ll be less fatigued, and you’ll even see improvement in your moods. Dehydration affects damn near everything, on account of how we’re mostly made of water.
Also, own at least one stock pot.
Old single socks make great dustrags, just put them on like a glove. old cheap af washclothes are perfect for scrubbing stuff like floors and bathtubs and cooktops. You can throw them in the wash, or if they’re so gross you can’t even, throw them away.
Ammonia fumes remove the horrifying gunk on your gas range cooktop burner covers. Pour 1 cup into a trash bag eith burner covers, and then tie it tightly shut and set it outside your back door overnight. When you remove the burner covers, the baked on brown goo will wash off without scrubbing. Just don’t accidentally make mustard gas.
Cheap shampoo can wash off soap scum easy-peasy. also, you can throw your shower curtain and liner in the tub with hot water and mr clean every once in a while to clean them, instead of buying new ones when they get gross.
If you live alone, and buy gallons of milk on sale, portion it into water bottles and freeze 2/3rds so it doesn’t go off before you can finish it.
Try and get sleep in multiples of 3hrs, so you are more likely to wake up at the end of a sleep cycle instead of in the middle. Even just aiming for multiples of 90 minutes works better. And sleep debt is real, and your body has it’s own idea of what you need and you need to learn to listen to it because it’s got the home court advantage.
It’s OK to throw away or repurpose clothes or towels with stains and holes. No matter how careful you are about taking care of your things, THINGS WEAR OUT. It’s not wasteful. Everything wears out eventually. Don’t let the brain weasels lie to you and make you feel guilty.
Magic Eraser isn’t magic. It’s melamine foam, which becomes the finest abrasive ever when wet, and it sands off the top layer of things, which is awesome when that’s exactly what you need it to do, and not so awesome when it’s not. But you can even use it to polish the silver.
Get your prescription glasses from Zenni.
Be kind to cashiers, restsurant servers, and Customer Service people. If they do a great job, ask to tell their manager or fill out a survey. Also, always tip minimum 20% in cash. Servers usually have to tip the busboys and bar out of their own tips.
Likewise if you’re staying a hotel, tip the housekeeping staff $5 per person per day. Ditto the bellmen. If they pool tips, I usually end up just handing the bell captain a $20 when I arrive. If you’ve ever attended a fannish or doll convention, believe me when I yell you it is the very least you can do in exchange for their hard work.
Unless you’re fearing for your own safety, make eye contact with the homeless people who are begging for money in the street, and don’t walk by them pretending that they don’t exist. Because that is a shitty, shitty thing to do. Even if you have no spare change, acknowledge they are seen and heard and say you’re sorry. If someone is hungry, take them to a 7-11 or Subway and buy them a sandwich. Buy a copy of Streetwise. Choose to be kind, because the world is not kind.
Rather than cranking up the heat in winter, get a heated mattress pad with a timer. Turn it on half an hour before you go to bed. Your body temp drops at night, and you’ll sleep better.
This is incredible because it is super difficult to visualise how much 6 feet actually is and most people don’t bother to try
HOLY SHIT ok first of all that is a brilliant use of technology, and second, that activated my flight response bigtime and i bet it convinced people to evacuate that weren’t gonna, which would’ve saved lives. so good job folks, worth the effort.
I mean, caveat, it does for me. I can’t even presume to tell you that the brain fog I get is from ADHD or some other neurological issue, I’m not diagnosed and may in fact not have it (I’m workshopping the problem, not least because ironically getting an examination for ADHD involves making phone calls).
I find that if I’m feeling like I can’t focus, like I’m in a mental haze, if I can engage with something in some way for just long enough, it’ll pull me in and my actual focus returns. If I can crack the textbook and start reading, even if I’m not retaining, by the third or fourth page I’m deep enough into it that I’m able to concentrate and I can go back and look at what I missed. Sometimes it just means looking at pictures in the book for a couple of minutes first. It’s getting the book open that’s tough, but if that’s the specific purpose of why I’m there, it’s a little easier. (Not having a smartphone probably helped.)
It’s still the same today at work – if I can get the files I need open and just start filling out the mindless “look up info and enter it” shit, after about five to ten minutes I can start on the more creative parts of the assignment, and then go back to the really complicated “look up info but in a separate database requiring a lot of discerning of good from bad data” bits.
It’s why I stopped using Word for my work and started using OneNote (a fancy expensive Microsoft version of Evernote) – I just have OneNote always open and all the templates and documents I need are always available inside it, so getting started is way less effort.
And the reason I always went to the bagel place in college was that they did a Saturday special that was a bagel and a bowl of mini-ravioli soup, both of which take a while to eat, and I focus way better if I’m actively eating while I do it. This is also a reason I’ve found my Sunday hamburger brunches so successful in terms of getting writing done. It’s possibly something to do with metabolizing the food, or maybe to do with distracting some of my other senses (it DOES NOT work with music, interestingly) but if I can absently have a meal while working, I get more done.
